Men are as different to Women, as Horses are to Koala Bears
And Men by definition are pretty much like Black and White Cellphones with a limited talk time.
Black and white?
Yes. Black and white is how Men see the World (compared to Women who see the World in bright, rich and vivid colors).
So, what they say is what they mean, literally. And their straightforward and direct approach to life makes them appealing and annoying at the same time.
Men also process their emotions in a similar manner. He first filters out anything that doesn’t even remotely correspond with his biological role of Providing, Protecting, and Procreating. In fact, many of those emotions won’t even show up on his Radar.
He’ll then assess the intensity of that emotion. Given that he primarily operates on two settings much like an electronic appliance, if the emotion isn’t intense enough, his setting will remain in the OFF position. But if it, then his fangs will come to life, kinda like what happens to Dracula when he smells freshly baked Cookies.
This emotional filter leads Men to experience more Doh moments than most would imagine, especially when they’re in the presence of their Ladies. That doesn’t mean that they are born with plastic hearts that run on a couple of Energizer Batteries. No. They just don’t have access to the plethora of emotions, colors, and details that Women do.
This may seem like a bad thing in the “modern World”, but it’s essentially what kept the Human Race alive for millions of years.
For instance, if a Big Bad Wolf showed up at their doorstep wearing a red cap, he’s not gonna ask the Wolf about where he bought the Cap from or whether he got a good deal for it or if he goes out shopping often etc. No, he filters out all of those emotions and kicks the Wolf’s ass all the way to the Moon (or a nearby planet).
Likewise, when he’s out in the wilderness fulfilling the grocery requirements for their household, he doesn’t stop by the Traveling Cat Circus that showed up in the Jungle a week ago, nor does he even think about calling his Wife/Girlfriend with an update on how his little outing is going. He knows that his family is counting on him to come home preferably in one piece, before Sundown, and WITH the Groceries. In fact, if he were to stop by a phone booth somewhere to make a quick 2-minute phone call, then all the predators in his vicinity would politely wait for him to finish the call and then gobble him up.
Men were originally wired (in their Creators special laboratory), to keep the human race alive.“Happiness” wasn’t mentioned anywhere on the contract they signed, before parachuting down to Earth.
Happiness and Beauty (for the most part) are things Women invented on their own, due to all the spare time that suddenly became available, since Lamps and Light bulbs were invented. Now, that’s not to say that, Men weren’t happy before that. But their form of happiness has always been more of an inner glow, that they walked around with and rarely showed on their faces.
Emotional Overload
Whilst a Man’s Black and White outlook on life has been beneficial for the human race as a whole, it’s not without its drawbacks.
Having access to just 3 BIG ASS emotion receptors means, for the most part, they’ll feel like his life and limb.
And that’s why a Man rarely stays in a relationship, where he doesn’t feel like he’s fulfilling all 3 aspects of his role.
And he assesses his ability to fulfill his role primarily on “how happy his Lady is”. If she’s got a bright, glowing smile on her face, he’ll feel like he’s basking in her Sunshine and he too will be as happy as a daisy.
But if the feedback he receives has a frying pan, a rolling pin or a restraining order attached to it, then he’ll safely assume that She isn’t happy about something. And if that unhappiness persists, and he’s the kind of Man who has “options”, he’ll leave that relationship with very little hesitation.
The only exception to that is if he’s “genuinely” fallen in love, in which case he’ll be forced to stay to fulfill his biological obligation to Provide, Protect, and Procreate. In many ways, for him, it’s no different to a Mother’s love for her Child. And that should give you an indication as to why less than 20% of the divorces are initiated by Men and why Men who have been in long-term relationships have a harder time letting go.
The second drawback is “conversation”.
The “limited talk time issue” in a Man, is a result of his Broca Area (or the speech part of the brain), being in a permanent state of hibernation.
Men can literally spend their whole lives without having to say a word and they’ll be as happy (or content) as they can be. Their ability to “stay quiet all day long” was in fact how they managed to come home to their lovely Families, with all their ligaments intact, way back in the Stone Ages.
But, since Women have been entrusted with the role of nurturing and molding the human race, if Women had the same speech deficiency as Men, then the whole human race would be walking around saying “huh”.
Conversations wouldn’t be such a big deal for Men if it was directed at “solving” a problem of some sort. He can instantly associate that with his Provide and Protect genes. So, when a Woman tells a Man about something she’s unhappy about or something she’s struggling with, he has his bandages and dressings at hand and he’s just waiting patiently to pounce in and stop the bleeding.
But if what he hears doesn’t register with his limited emotional spectrum, then he’ll say something along the lines of “Don’t worry about it” or “It’s not a big deal”.
Listening to problems without solving them drives Men completely nuts because in his mind he’s saying “She’s bleeding out and she’ll probably collapse any minute now. And all she wants me to do is just ‘listen’?!”. And then, when she reacts like he’s wrong to have stopped the bleeding and possibly saved the day, he feels like he’s not a worthy enough provider or protector. So, he’ll dash out the door to process the situation as best he can.
A second reason why Men aim for the nearest Fire Escape is when they feel controlled and imprisoned. Freedom (much like admiration, acceptance, appreciation and donuts) is a big deal for Men. Men have gotten by, for hundreds of thousands of years, without anyone keeping tabs on them. And, as far as they’re concerned, they’re doing it ALL for their families (even if it’s perceived otherwise), so why hinder their ability to do just that?
If you’ve seen movie Braveheart, you may recall the iconic scene where William Wallace (played by Mel Gibson) says “They can take our Lives and our iPods, but they’ll never take our freedom!”. Well, all Men live by that principle, because it’s deeply wired into their DNA.
So, if you want to really have an upper hand in the relationship, then drop the card pack you had been using all these years and pull out your “virtues card pack” instead.
If you slap a Man with one virtue after another and make him feel powerful,strong and in control; then from that point on, he wouldn’t dream of seeing another sunrise without you by his side. And, he’ll start seeing you as the Moon, among a million dull stars.
Obviously don’t just stick to your virtues. He’ll eventually need his “medicine” too when the Moon comes out and the Wolves start rehearsing for their upcoming single.
