Are sawdust, food stains and raggedy clothes getting the better of your relationships?
Women primarily look for Men with Social Status, Elegance, Confidence, Teeth, Potential, Romance, Ambition, Class, Courage, Coolness, Personality, Humor, Attentiveness, Patience, Spunk and maybe a bottomless Bank Account or two.
But it all starts with the way you present yourself and how awesome you feel about yourself.
So, if things aren’t as awesome in your Romantic life as they should be, then use the following pointers to steer yourself back on track:
1.Dress your finest when you’re at work, on a date, chasing a raccoon and even when at home.
2.Be exceptionally well groomed from hair,back hair,beard, nostrils,teeth,ears and nails all the way to your toenails.
3. Keep a natural and friendly smile on your face at all times (especially when you’re asleep).
4. Keep your posture upright and head straight at all times (but without appearing like Robocop)
5. Walk with a natural spring in your step like you just won the lottery
6. Take longer strides with your steps without stumbling over any Babies, Kittens or Puppies
7. Never look around or down without a good reason – Bobbleheads are generally viewed as lost,confused and creepy.
8. Always greet people with a genuine smile and feel free flash every tooth that you brush regularly – Women are equally observant on how you deal with your surroundings as you do with them. Besides, a genuine smile usually makes the other person feel good and cause them to smile back. And that’s not considered a criminal offense in most Cities.
9. Take your mannerism and standards to a whole new level starting with the little bitty things that you may be overlooking, such as the way you sneeze, cough, munch, tinkle etc.
10. Shower her with sincere compliments – Women are used to being complimented on their looks regularly. Whilst that’s important, it’s more important to stand out from the pack by complimenting her for her on her traits and virtues (something she rarely gets enough of). And given that whatever you feed grows over time, it soon becomes a win-win deal for you both.
11. Bring out that good old fashioned chivalry – If there’s one thing that can melt a Woman’s heart every time (aside from her favorite Chocolate), is letting her know how special she is through little acts of love.
And you can demonstrate them through simple everyday gestures like opening the car door for her, pulling out the chair for her to sit down, offering her your jacket whenever you notice frost building up around her cheeks, walking on the side of the traffic when on the sidewalk (without getting run over), carrying her shopping and her Piano (if she needs to take it somewhere), giving her a few calls during the day to check on how She’s doing etc.
12. Take time to notice the small details – Women put in a lot of care and love into many of the things that guys generally breeze over.
But taking the time to notice these “seemingly” small things in a favorable way and telling her how much you appreciate them, makes a huge difference in your relationship.
13. Be as cool as a cucumber – Whilst being cool and fun to hang out with, it’s just as important to be able to weather the “occasional” thunderstorm that hits you right in the face unannounced.
Everyone’s entitled to a bad day once in while. But it’s in how you handle those storms that determine the strength of the relationship. So if she really wants “scream and shout and let it all out”, then let her.
In fact, help her get a better view of your face by standing tall and by keeping your eyes glued to hers in a loving and accepting way.
Anger, hatred, prejudice, and jealousy are all synonyms of the term “pain”at a psychological level.
So by standing with her in her moment of need, you’re literally being a shoulder to cry on (in a weird kind of way).
At the same time, don’t make the mistake of giving into any of her demands unless you know you’re definitely in the wrong. Doing so will label you as a “ginormous wuss” and eventually get kicked out of the relationship. Also don’t put up with it, if it becomes a regular occurrence. You’re entitled to your happiness too.
14. Bring out your Romance – Plan out a romantic outing, a candlelit dinner for two, a weekend getaway at the Resort she speaks so highly about or just surprise her with a hot air balloon ride around the Moon. And get into the habit of making one or more of these monumental memories every month (ideally every week).
15. Spend time together – Take time to find out the hobbies that the two of you have in common and then get her to enroll in a class with you so that the two of you can make a few memories that won’t have fizzled out when the lights come back on.
16. Aim for greener pastures – Whatever level you’re at right now financially and socially, you could do better. In fact, if you occasionally have more month than money, then financial stability is even more imperative for the survival of your relationship.That’s because very few Women would be able to appreciate the music and enjoy the view whilst sitting on board a sinking Titanic.
Think of it like this.
If you meet someone whose just as beautiful and cheerful as your Partner, but has many times the virtues and finds you completely brilliant in every way, then wouldn’t you be rethinking your options for at least a fraction of a second?
17. Shower her with “small” thoughtful gifts and gestures – Unlike Men who generally delegate the role of constantly saying “I love you”to a Ring, Women actually prefer to hear the Words being spoken and to see actions to back those words in a way that makes sense to them.
So whilst going to Work everyday, buying her something special for her Birthday, showing up for your “pajama duties”every evening and saving her from the Monstrous cardboard box that tried to gobble her up earns you several Gold Medals if the Panel consisted of all male judges, it wouldn’t earn you much more a peck on the cheeks (or a punch on the nose)in her book.
And that’s because to a Woman it’s not much different to showing up at what she assumed is a 5 Star Gourmet Restaurant, only to be served bread and butter, whilst watching her friends feast on their 3-5 Course Meals.
So instead of the typical“home run”approach to Romance, Women need constant validation through small and possibly inexpensive gifts that resonate with their personalities or reflects back on a happy memory.
For instance, if the two of you visited the Eiffel tower, then it would make sense to get her an Eiffel Tower ornament or better yet get her a custom ornament that also has a picture of the two of you together.
But it can also be an everyday item, like a perfume bottle, a chocolate pizza, an eye massager, a calendar, a hilarious wall painting, sexy lingerie, a personalized Teddy Bear, a pair of cool bathroom slippers etc.
In addition to these regular thoughtful gifts, Women also appreciate the occasional romantic surprises and just about anything that makes their lives more “comfortable”.
So if she’s not much of a morning person, why not have a freshly brewed cup of coffee waiting for her when she wakes up? You can even surprise her with the occasional breakfast in bed and leave a few “I love you” cards for her to stumble upon and “shriek in delight” during the day.
